but anyways, I always get off track.
Working in depth with actors to prepare for complex roles is a necessary thing. I'm all for letting an actor work with a role and become the role. I have complete respect for the craft and the process. But they still need a starting point. I'll tell them what to think, and how to think it. Suggestions are always welcome and dialogue is very flexible. Without going cheesy on the subject but I'm gonna use that old actor=canvas and I'm holding the brush analogy.
Jokingly I told my friend Cecilia that the secret to directing is to watch the rehearsal of a scene, then tell the actors to either do it again exactly the same, or tell them to do it differently. In a sense thats really all there is to it.